The Perfect Mom
Growing up, I lived in the suburbs of Santa Clara, a small city in the Bay Area, and I went to private Catholic School from Kindergarten...
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Family Tree Wellness
Jul 22, 20212 min
Courage for the Darkness
The darkest corners of our psyches are not inviting. Those crevices where we've stuffed all our secret feelings of worthlessness, shame,...
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Family Tree Wellness
Feb 16, 20212 min
Job Title: Perfect Mom
(This blog was created to be a tongue-in-cheek accompaniment to a talk we are giving on "Using Internal Family Systems to Heal...
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Family Tree Wellness
Dec 9, 20202 min
Rest
Juggling, multi-tasking, too busy, tired, exhausted – if these are the words and phrases you find yourself using to describe yourself, I...
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Family Tree Wellness
Oct 2, 20202 min
Dear Black Mamas, Let’s Celebrate!
After months of preparation and experiencing every emotion imaginable, the time is finally here. You are thrilled to welcome your new...
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Family Tree Wellness
Aug 4, 20204 min
Postpartum & Pandemic Parallels - Part 2
As pregnant people move through the months of this pandemic, there is such piercing grief for all they are missing. Commingled with the...
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Family Tree Wellness
Aug 4, 20203 min
Postpartum & Pandemic Parallels - Part 1
Most of the new moms that I work with lament a similar refrain: “Will this ever end?” I remember when I was in the throes of early...
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Family Tree Wellness
Jul 26, 20202 min
Turn Toward Your Pain
Growing up in an alcoholic family, I was encouraged to not notice, speak to or feel my pain. And my pain was immense and unbearable....
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Family Tree Wellness
Jun 2, 20205 min
We Have to Find Our Own Way
I remember the early months of motherhood being full of uncertainty and judgment. Every decision about sleeping and feeding and...
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Family Tree Wellness
May 22, 20201 min
When Breath = Life
Take a deep breath. Notice what floats into your mind as you take this breath. Maybe you think, “I can’t.” Maybe you think, “I don’t...
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Family Tree Wellness
Apr 5, 20202 min
How to be open-hearted in a time of fear
“It was the best of times, it was the worst of times, it was the age of wisdom, it was the age of foolishness.” This difficult, wild,...
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Family Tree Wellness
Mar 11, 20202 min
Mothering is the heart of our humanity
Mothering is the method humans use for setting up crucial components of humanness in our species including: our individual wellness...
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Family Tree Wellness
Mar 11, 20201 min
"Shoulding" on Yourself
If I had a nickel for every time a new mom said, “I should be doing/being/feeling (breastfeeding, playing with the baby 24/7, feeling...
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Family Tree Wellness
Mar 11, 20203 min
Momming Yourself
When people talk about “self care” the conversation usually revolves around things like massages, pedicures, taking a bath, or, if you’re...
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Family Tree Wellness
Mar 11, 20208 min
Motherless Moms
Many women enter motherhood without having their own mothers present in their lives. Whether they've lost their mothers to death or to...
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Family Tree Wellness
Jan 25, 20205 min
Using Internal Family Systems (IFS) with Perinatal Women
The perinatal period is defined as the period “all around” birth, including pregnancy and the entire year after birth.
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Family Tree Wellness
Dec 11, 20192 min
Care Providers & Birth Workers
New moms need sensitive, respectful care providers. Yes, that's you. OBs, midwives, surgeons, doulas, lactation consultants, therapists,...
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Family Tree Wellness
Dec 11, 20197 min
Mothering Your Self
There is nothing on earth as important as creating and raising a child. Mothering means infusing a new little body and consciousness...
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Family Tree Wellness
Dec 11, 20197 min
The Oral Character Style and Postpartum Suffering
I remember nursing my newborn daughter and feeling an overwhelming physical thirst of emergency intensity nearly every nursing session. ...
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Family Tree Wellness
Dec 11, 20192 min
About LGBTQ Perinatal Mental Health
Thankfully, mercifully, I continue to expand in my awareness of just how magnificently varied we are as human beings. We show up in so...
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